Replies to 'Bipolar Disorder'

First things first. I was on Tegretol, and was on it for ten years. In 1999 I developed an allergy to it and had to stop taking it. Immediately. This is what led to the loss of my job. There I was, off drugs, and then we started playing drug roulette. I was behaving in ways at work that were inappropriate (If you know what I mean and I am sure that you do) so I decided to tell my boss that I am bipolar. She is a registered nurse so I thought she could handle it. When I saw the look on her face I knew she couldn't. So I was fired. It took several months to get me back on drugs. Now I am on Topomax, Paxil, and Respiradol. And those three drugs do not work as well for me as Tegretol by itself did.  

I know you  are hurting from your procedure and that doesn't help. I am a total sissy when it comes to pain. Have had endometrosis, migraines, and kidney stones, so know what it is. And I don't like it. If you have sleeping pills I would definitely take one tonight. Everything looks better after you sleep on it. 

Now about your friend lying. Was it the kind of lie where she was trying to make you feel better? I'm like you, I hate people who lie but that kind I can deal with even though I don't like it. 

Or was it the kind of lie one of my "best friends" told when she took every guy aside that I dated and told them that I was sleeping with everyone except him. (And me a virgin). I wondered why a guy never asked me out more than a couple of times. You know, that was in 1964 and I'm still not over it. That was a betrayal of the highest order. I never understood why she did it. But trust me, when I found out, I didn't give her a second chance. 

So it depends on the kind of lie and, mostly, the intention. I am not a liar (bet you knew that) but can excuse it depending on why the person lied if they are trying to spare my feelings. It is  misguided, but I understand it. If that is the case, I would talk with her and tell her I would rather have the truth and explain that it bothers you when she doesn't tell you the truth. 

If she is telling all your boyfriends you are sleeping around on them, throw her out of your life without a backward glance. 

Don't gamble--the house always wins.