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Good golly people, do you listen to what I say on the show?  Of course I don't want my kids to be like me.  I want them to grow up with the wisdom to surround themselves with the people that add to their lives in a positive way no matter what they look like, I just got so scared thinking of how much hurt they will endure if they like me go through an ugly duckling phase and are ostrasized for it and I was just trying to safe gaurd them in the only way I knew how.   I believe every mom worries about this in some way, whether it be making sure we live in a good neighborhood or hope our kids go to a good school or that we dress them fashionably enough so they don't look like a misfit.  There are so many ways that we as moms try to make life easier for our children and mine was just one of the misguided ways.  Watch the movie Simon Birch, I hope to heck I can become the wonderful mother that is on that movie but when my child comes home crying because they were horribly picked on because of their looks or because of their friends looks, I just hope I will be wise enough to be able to help them through it with their self esteem in tact all the while wondering had they just picked a different friend would they be feeling the sting of this rejection right now?  Yes, I will still think that in my head, but I don't intend on passing that onto my children if I follow Dr. Phil's advice, which I will so next time listen to everything I say and not just pick out what you want to hear.