Quote From: upnorth04I have been in a steady relationship for about 5 years. We have been engaged for about 2 years. I know that he's afraid of marrige (due to a horrible previous divorce that drug-on for 2 years). I am not worried about pushing marrige, and i haven't pushed it. What i am in need of is advice, ideas...I recently found out that my fiance' has pictures of an old girlfriend (from at least 20 years ago) on his computer. Many. I believe he has been communicating with her online through email. I located these pictures today, and am very upset. I am prepared to do what i have to. I am 25, he is 43. I have no children, he has one (10yrs old which i have a great relationship with). Ladies...what should i demand of this man? I have asked for her email and numbers and all access to his email accounts. I am going to meet him this evening to "talk", but i will be having him email her in front of me and tell her that he is with me and that they will be stopping thier communication (or whatever..I need ideas!) My judgement is clouded by being hurt. Is this really comparable to cheating? HELP
you asked what you should demand of this man, quite simply you should demand loyalty. if someone is with you, regardless of whether you are married or not, you should both be completely loyal to each other. his relationship with this woman could be completely innocent and friendship based, but the fact that he hid it from you is inexcusable. he needs to come clean to you and to her. i would see it as cheating if my husband carried on an emotional relationship with someone other than me. if he is confiding in her rather than you, that is wrong. you have a right to be upset, but find out the facts before you hurt yourself more than necessary. let me know what happens and good luck.
