Replies to 'Childhood Sexual Abuse Support'

I know just where you are coming from. I too had a major flashback with my boyfriend then who is now my husband. Being honest with him is the most important thing you can do for your relationship. Otherwise he will misread your actions. Think about him as a person...Is he the kind of guy who will freak out and get angry at you if you tell him you have suffered with this for so long? From your description I would say no.Explaining yourself and expressing yourself is important. Let him ask questions but let him know that the best thing he can do is let you talk it out...and encourage you in your healing. Guys have this need to fix things for us. Let him know that isn't what you want. He will have to be patient with you. Maybe now isn't the time to get intimate. Emotional intimacy can be just as fulfilling and for him he will need some snuggling. Don't feel guilty about your feelings. Once when my husband and I were making love I had to keep my eyes open and keep saying "I'm ok. I am safe with you.  You love me and I love you." Boy did that help! Sounds crazy but whatever you have to do you know....He needs to understand that sex and intimacy is a trigger for you. It would be like eating fish and hating it. It would be hard to continue to try different kinds of fishes right? I am praying for you. Good luck and God bless. Also I recommend couple counseling if he is willing and you are serious enough about each other.