Quote From: scaredicatLOOK OUT FOR USERS......... THEY COME IN FEMALE FORM TOO :'( 
 
I think i told you guys (those of you who know me) that my best friend  
supposedly had something with my ( now hasbeen ) and i just  
recently confirmed it ...Good thing we are divorced !!!!!!! 
It would appear that i am the only one not in denial about it ... 
THIS IS ANOTHER FORM OF ABUSE !!!!!!!!!!!!! 
 
I had to come to realize that nothing i told her was safe anymore or secret. 
Well i also figured out that i was so right about my Hasbeen being a selfish 
Person. 
I had to sell my car and i ended up selling to HIM cause i had no other re- 
course and wouldn't you know it...Not only did he suddenly have the money 
for the insurance and that darn muffler he couldn't FIND when I needed it 
But he has it up and running already .................... 
 
Oh well i knew that it was gonna happen like that and now i am just wondering if  
confronting him with all this info would only serve to make me feel better and i guess  
the answer is YES.... 
I am very careful not to ask him for anything that doesn't come to the benefit of our lil guy 
but i am just angry today ........................... Otherwise i am doing okay . 
I moved me and the lil guy into a two bedroom apartment ( from a 3 bedroom house  
that was not easy i tell ya , my room is still a bit of a mess ) around the corner from where i work  
( i did mention once or twiced i work at our local superwal-mart deli right?) well it isn't easy cause the work is killing my hands and arms but i wouldn't give it up cause i love the ppl i work with ( even the difficult ones LOL )and the only time i go anywhere is to my karaoke on the weekends and on sundays i play texas holdem ( for points only and some pool ) my lil guy is making some improvements here and there and the fourth grandbaby ( a girl) is already going on 6 mos old :)I am coming up on 2 yrs at my job and on 4/3 is my last workday b4 vacation :) my second week of vacation i will be taking in august cause i been invited to go to sturgis ( i will be like a skibunny in the bikerworld...WATCHING AND PARTYING LOL) 
Geez, telling ya'll all about this has made me feel better i still wish we had a chatroom i would love it , would certainly make it quicker to get messages around i think LOL 
Anyway my lil guy is sick today so we go to the doc tomorrow and i will try to come back and see what's been going on . 
You all be safe and remember this....................GOD GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE  
PEOPLE I CANNOT CHANGE THE COURAGE TO
CHANGE THE ONE I CAN AND THE WISDOM TO  
KNOW IT IS ME >>>>>>>> :) 
 
LADYBUG  
( scaredicat only for log in ) 
For days I've been on here reading nothing but dispair and confusion and I have felt like a damn motivational speaker with all my replies. I am thrilled to hear you have removed yourself from such an abusive situation. This is the right thing for your lil guy and I sense a type-of-relief coming from your words so u stick it out.
It's been 8 yrs since I left my criminally abusive ex and the scars remain but I have found peace. Sure, my present hubby isn't Mr. Dream Man but he stays home and he doesn't beat me. However it took too many years of ppl scolding me and trying to knock some sense into me before I left my unfaithful violent bi-polar who wouldn't take his meds alcoholic addict sociopath, and i am not exaggerating. I must have been feeling mighty worthless and low to think I couldn't do any better than that. But ppl didn't give up on me and I now feel the need to pay it forward. I don't care how reduntant I sound or repeat myself, if u are in an unacceptably abusive situation looking for strength and comfort I am gonna tell u how it is. We can't give up on one another as a support - this is too important.
God Bless