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March 16, 2006, 10:53 am PST
 Quote From: jenoc99 I disagree with you- I think your feelings are normal! You did marry very young, you didn't get to enjoy much of your youth before having children- your feelings are valid. It sounds like what you need is some change, you need to do something fun and exciting for yourself. Do you have any hobbies or activities that you enjoy outside of the home? You need to find your passion in life! Every woman has a passion, but it takes us many years to discover it. I urge you to try something new/different in life, such as take a class or join a group/club that you are interested in. Even if you only have a minimal interest in something, such as drawing or painting, give it a try and see where it goes! Just having that time outside of the home to do something only for yourself is such a boost. Another suggestion is exercise, go out for a walk by yourself, start out small and before you know it you might be walking miles. Its wonderful to breath in the fresh air and just be by yourself with nature. (If you are that type of person, that is!) These are only a few suggestions, but the bottom line is to find your passion. Of course you love your family, but there is a whole world out there that is waiting for you to contribute your passion to. I know exactly how you feel, I have felt the very same way after my last child was born. These are such complex emotions, and it feels wrong to share them with the ones you love, I understand. Its important to listen to your instincts, though, and do something for yourself. I would love to be able to make time for myself like this, but it's just so hard when I have such young children, (7,5,3,&15months) My 3 year old has a very bad case of asthma. Typically when she has an attack she needs to be rushed to the hospital. I'm afraid to leave her with others that won't know what to do if she has an attack. Plus if I did go out, I'd would be worrying about her all night, so I wouldn't be having any fun anyways. I get an hour lunch break at work so I usually try and devote that to myself by reading a book or listening to some tunes. The one thing I definatly need to change right away is lashing out my husband. If I get into this certain mood anything he says I'll snap at him for it. The past couple of times that I've done this he tells me he needs to leave until I can loose my temper. I don't know what he does while he's out, but my biggest fear is that one of these times he isn't going to come back.
Wouldn't life just be easier if we could add a few extra hours on to it?? |
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