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Yep, I told him. If I didnt tell him, then he would not have understood why I was being like I was. But, to my surprise, he understood. He did get a little upset at first, but he said it was nothing that we couldnt work through. We go to counseling and it was then, that I found out, that he felt some of what I was feeling too. Do you guys go to counseling? It would help both of you to get your feelings out and in the open. I think sometimes we all go through these emotions and we are afraid to speak about them, but we all have to be honest with each  other in order to make things better. I am bipolar and I have these awful up and down mood swings. Going to counseling helps me to be able to say what I need to say and not worry about how he will react, because the counselor will be there to explain things better to my husband than what I could do. Sometimes I still find myself lashing out at my husband for things that are bothering me, but I came to realize that he cant fix me and my feelings, only I can, and it isnt fair of me to take my feelings out on him. I am doing a whole lot better on my "self control". I have been reading Dr. Phils book, called "self matters". It also helps me too. See if you can get that book. I think if you sat your husband down and talked to him in a nice way and explained to him about how you are feeling, he just may open up to you and understand your thoughts better than what he is thinking by not knowing how you feel. You need to have open, honest communication. Your marriage will grow stronger once you two share your inner feelings. If your husband says any negative comments to you, dont take it to heart,. just give him time to really think about what you say to him. It took my husband 2 days to really understand what I was feeling. Going to marriage counseling, saved us and our marriage and made us both stronger people.