Replies to 'My Friend/Relative Won't Discipline!'

I would like to say to you and all others who think that they are trying to be their kids' friend. What kind of a friend, teacher, employer, etc. wants to put up with bad behavior? It amazes me how so many parents don't seem to have a clue as to why they are raising delinquents. As the old saying goes - kids need boundaries. All kids do. Being their best friend would mean setting limits and having all in the household do the same. They will respect you forever and live much more productive and happier lives.

Well, there really isn't anything you can do to change him, he has to want to do that for himself. YOu can try talking to him and coming up with solutions/compromisies which I am sure you have. Whatever the case, you need to make it clear to your daughter that your rules and his rules may not be the same, but she is to abide bythe rules of your home. Set the boundaries and guidelines and stick to your guns. You are her parent and she needs to learn to respect that. It's too bad that kids are given mixed messages from their parents but just because one parent doesn't have the guts to set guidelines and discipline doesn't mean that the other parent must cave in. I know it must be hard but be her parent and in the long run she will appreciate it.