Replies to '08/19 Ask Dr. Phil About Sex'

Adultery is a voluntary sexual act between a married person with some one other then their spouse, No matter how you want to sugar coat the act, swinger is just another term that justifies committing adultery, the difference is mainly that the person is given permission to committ adultery without accountability. And any one who has to have sex to build relationships and a community must be really living boring lives and doesn't have good self esteem about them selves, you do not have to build relationships by having sex with them. I personally am an opened minded person, but no way on this earth would I open up my bedroom or allow some one else to come in and interfere with my marriage and I thank God for a Godly man who feels the same way about it. It is a good feeling to know that I can come home and know that I am the one and only for my husband and that we don't have to go else where to get sexual satisfaction, our sex life will stay between our four walls and no one else is welcome in to my territory nor would I be opened and willing to give my husband any permission or excuse to go else where, it is wrong and it IS adultery to have sex with some one other then your spouse. permission or not,adultery is adultrey no matter how you look at it. And if one or two is not capable or willing to keep the marriage as two people, then why even get married? Why make the committment and say "I Do" to that one and only? if you can't keep yourselves for each other,then forget the vows! why share with others if you are committed to one another? again, marriage is about TWO people, not three or more. I realize that we are living in a society where anything goes but my children will learn how to love, respect and honor their spouses and themselves and if they want to build relationships, it is about trust, and being reliable and communication, it is about caring and being there for one anoter, and if you have to have sex with them to build the relationship then it is no friendship or true relation. sex has absolutely nothing to do with building relationships outside the marriage. I suppose sex means different things for different people but I believe it was created to create children as well as for enjoyment between the married couple and was not meant to be shared outside of the marriage, and it is the one thing that a married couple should be able to keep to themselves and not expected to share it with others. And if a marriage is so good and fullfilling, why go to others? Definetly something wrong with that picture!