Quote From: sickasex06Oh my gosh! Your story is dajavue. I am 23 with two boys. One 3 and one turning 2 in two months. I recently had a miscarriage, in October, my second one. I have not coped from that. My brother is expecting a son next week, and my sister in law is due in late April. As happy as I am for them both, I am so jealous inside. My husband is against having another child right now. He too says whats the rush. He says we'll have more "later", I dont know if thats his way of putting the subject aside for now or what. I know it seems like I am being impatient. And I guess I am, but I cant seem to get my heart to let me free of the desire of another child. When I go to a store or anywhere and see a pregnant women, or a newborn, I get a knot in my throat and just want to cry. And all I do is watch baby shows on tv, which just make it worse, but I feel compelled to watch. Its like an addiction, but a good one. I have begged my husband, pleaded, and even tried to bribe him. It just doesnt seem to work. He just doesnt understand how much my heart hurts for another child. I too am a stay at home mom. So we do live on a very tight budget. He says the biggest reason that we should wait to have another child is money. We have made it this far, I know we can manage. The last time I had no trouble convincing him to have another child- but after the miscarriage his views totally changed. I dont know how to convince him, so just like you, any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I cant believe how similar our stories are! My sister in law still hasn't had the baby - she is now a week over due and they are planning on inducing her on Monday.
I understand how you mean its an "addiction" I feel the same. Its all I think about. I have even gone so far as to plan out "if I get pregnant on this date, the baby will be due on this date" My hubby says the same thing about money. I think we do OK. I mean were not swimming in it, but we have a roof over our heads which will be ours in about 22 years!, we have food on the table and the kids NEVER go with out. Their bedrooms look like a fisher price testing facility! I love my kids with all my heart and I just cant see how another child could possibly be a bad thing.
I tried to bribe my husband too, with the promise of sex 3 times a week and he could go to cricket every weekend with out me bitching about the cost / time away from the family.
I cant explain why I want another child so badly, all I know is that is something that makes my heart ache - and it wont go away. He just doesn't get it. the only advice I could give you is keep telling him how important it is to you, thats what I'm doing, and hopefully one day he'll get it,
