Quote From: breewalshGrant, I'm LOVING the sarcasm. I don't know if you've kept up with my posts. (I've been out of the loop for for awhile, but you could read back)...I'm on your side here. I'm one of the few, as I'm sure you've come to figure out. I think that your ideas for the way to run a household are right on with maybe a little tweeking needed. I just wanted to let you know that I've noticed a change in your posts from the beginning and I can tell that you're really working towards something great...Obviously your sarcasm has increased as the level of frustration with people constantly beating you to a pulp has continued, which is understandable...Women love to find faults in men. It's been that way since we were given the permission to vote. Women don't want equality. They want the upperhand. Finding a guy like you, with a few faults (which I will say, because your ideals aren't exactly what I would call perfect or even close to) is like letting a kid loose in a candy store. They're going to have their way with you until concede. I admire your determination and strong foundation to hold on to what you truly see as real and good in your life. Keep on truckin'.
Please realize that some posters are trying to goad Grant into posting something truly obnoxious for the sake of keeping a debate very heated. I have to admit that although I have not been overwhelmingly impressed by Grant, I have to admire his decision to sidestep these land mines.
If you think women merely want to find fault with men, and have an "upper hand", hop on over to the boards for the "I'm a Slave to My Spouse". The two women who appeared on that show are being absolutely raked over the coals by predominantly female viewers. I think the vast majority of us truly want to have equal partnerships with our spouses.
There is nothing inherently wrong with a traditional view of home and family, but in regards to this situation, I think your focus is a bit warped. When you are in a mature relationship based on mutual trust, respect and friendship, then the details of how things should work become much easier and not nearly as important. You mention Grant's "faults" as if they are merely blips in the big picture, but it seems to me that the spirit you bring to relationship IS the big picture. It is the foundation of the marriage, and without a strong foundation, nothing else really matters because eventually it will crumble away.
I think we should avoid being on Grant's "side" or Kelly's "side" and choose to be on the "side" of promoting happy, healthy marriages (especially where children are involved). If five years from now Grant is on television as the male Martha Stewart and Kelly is running national seminars for spouses of anal engineers, but they are having a rockin' good time and enjoying the heck out of life and each other, we should all stand up and applaud. Forget about telling either of them to "Stand your ground, you're RIGHT!" and focus on encouraging them to find what WORKS for both of them.
