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August 23, 2005, 12:07 pm PDT

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From what I understand from my divorce, He can't make you pay to send the children to him if it was his choice to move. They may even tell him that he needs to pay more support because he is not with the children as often which means more daycare for you, more one on one time, and obviously if the children are not with him as often it cost you more to raise them.  So I would look into that. Don't let him stress you out. I try and look at it like this. I do not have to share my daughter and go through all the crazy mess of missing her on holidays. I get 365 days of peace and quite  from an ex husband who obviously doesn't know what he is doing to his child. Of course him and his new wife call and harrass me, but.. I have stopped answering the phone now. 

  

  

I just went to legal aid they weren't much help.  The woman told me to just stick to the az guidelines for visitaion and make him do the work because he moved.  i just don't want to give up my entire summer.  Since i am going to school to be a teacher that is pretty much the only time i have for vacation.  Thank you for the advise i am trying to get my stuff together for court next month.  I am trying to look into things, like borrowing money for a lawyer and looking up information about visitation guidelines.  From what i found so much it goes a lot on a case by case basis and i think i have enough documentation to proove my points.  Thank you again for listening it helps to have someone to bounce things off of.
 
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January 13, 2006, 4:30 pm PST

Single Parenting

Quote From: kmlett

From what I understand from my divorce, He can't make you pay to send the children to him if it was his choice to move. They may even tell him that he needs to pay more support because he is not with the children as often which means more daycare for you, more one on one time, and obviously if the children are not with him as often it cost you more to raise them.  So I would look into that. Don't let him stress you out. I try and look at it like this. I do not have to share my daughter and go through all the crazy mess of missing her on holidays. I get 365 days of peace and quite  from an ex husband who obviously doesn't know what he is doing to his child. Of course him and his new wife call and harrass me, but.. I have stopped answering the phone now. 

  

  

I agree with the previous response - don't worry about it so much!   

If he's not willing to pay for the travel - he doesn't need to see them.   

I too am a single parent & the father sees them when MY schedule deems appropriate & yes, he does pay support. 

Don't let everything bother you, pick your battles.  If you don't feel comfortable putting them on a plan, don't & I don't believe any court will make you. 

Best of luck to you, breathe & enjoy your kids while they're still young.  They grow up REALLY fast! 

 


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