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March 24, 2006, 1:11 pm PST
03/24 Moms Money Conflicts
Quote From: purplepainNo, it's not ALWAYS true, but it's a generalization that I think people can make confidently.
My daughter will be an only child and this is something I am very much taking into consideration. I worry about her ability to share and think about other children. He didn't make it sound like only children are DOOMED to be as such, they are just more likely to be and it's something you have to consider while raising an only child.
It's no different then having, say, a child in little league, they are more likely to be hit by a baseball then a child who isn't in little league...so you have to deal with that as a coniquence of having a child in little league. I don't even think it's true in most cases. I think it tends to happen with children that are improperly socilaized when it comes to sharing. I have seen plenty of "miney" siblings. Yes, it is often more work if you have an only child to find opportunities for lessons in sharing but people that do that extra work often are rewarded with having a very giving child.
I just think only children get saddled with the "spoiled brat" rap, even when they do not deserve it. That bothers me.
In my case I had little neighbor freinds my age, and I went to a very good day care. So socilaization was totally not an issue. I also had the luxury of being a GIrl Scout, and still am actaully.
As for your daughter, I'm sure she's a lovely child. I work with kids a lot and I see a lot of things. One of the best things you can do since she is an only child is always let her know that any help she gives is appreciated. I remember helping with the dishes when I was little and my mom saying what a good "little helper" I was. It made me VERY inclined to help people. Also as her mother you are her biggest role model and she'll mimic your behaviors. In my experience only children try to behave like "little adults" because that's more often who they are associating with. It doesn't seem like you'll have anythign to worry about with your daughter, since you're so concerned. Good Luck. :)
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