Quote From: lucky35Hello everyone, I have a situation where my husband loves to hold me down and tickle me. The problem is he won't stop when I ask him to and then it accelerates into wrestling with him to try and get him off of me and/or to stop tickling me. I enjoy being tickled at first, but then I expect him to stop when I ask him to, but he doesn't. This morning he was tickling me again and holding me down and he wouldn't stop. Then he started pulling my hair. I finally slapped him really hard on the head and the side of his face. He then stopped and let me up. The problem is I feel really bad like I abused him because I could tell I kind of hurt him, but what do you do when someone refuses to stop tickling you, holding you down, and pulling your hair? Who was wrong in this situation? Me? Him? or both of us? I keep telling my husband that I'm worried that one day when we're wrestling around and he's tickling me that it is going to get out of hand really quick and either he is going to hurt me or vise versa? How do I make him understand this? Thanks so much.
you were being held down. you told him to stop he didnt stop. he pulled your hair. he caused yotu pain and you defended yourself. he is escalating, you are not safe. he will continue ot escalate as it always escalates. you need a plan. one long term and one for the day of leaving. please look up the websites theat are listed as resources. they will educate you as well as give you specfics of what you need to do and have with you.
if oyu stay with this man and have kids the children will witness the abuse and this is abuse. they will also be abused directly by him... at a minimum mental and emotional abuse if not physical. you are not safe. he is not immature... he is an abuser. abuse is about power and control.. not anger management. if his probelm was anger thi tickling incident whould not have happend. do not feel bad. you were defending yourself. if he does this again or any abuse call the police and press charges.
