Quote From: pioneerw2bPaying for your own wedding ring ????? Come on now......no one needs a man that bad. It also burns me that he is able to spend on everyone but his own wife. Please, women out there......if you are not the most important thing to him BEFORE you are married, what makes you think you will be AFTER ???? You cannot change a man nor should you change who you are to fit him.
Dr Phil needs to give the wife his book,"Self Matters". I don't care about the fact that she knew how he was before the marriage. That's in the past. What she does from now on is up to her. She can't change him, BUT, she can change her reaction to his actions. Money is not that important, unless you have none. It sounds like she has no say. That's her choice. When he does something that hurts her she must tell him. that , that is unacceptable. She is his equal in this marriage, start acting like it. He was never taught as a child how to treat his partner. She must teach him. Men are not born with some emotions. These are taught. How did the men in his life treat their life partners. What was allowed. He can be the man of the house, and still repect his wife in all decisions. He will benifit in the long run. He can't do what he's doing without her allowing it. She must agree to some of the tactics he has been allowed to do.
Really, I think that the whole situation is based on Repect and demanding Respect.
