Replies to '02/21 More Wifestyles'

Hi Kira, 

It is so nice to be able to have a civil discussion!  Thank you for your reply.  You are right, I have not shown an overwhelming amount of support for Kelly.  She obviously works hard.  I know that she has a firecracker child like my Luke.  Yesterday he decided he wanted to go swimming in Lake Superior while we were at the park.  He ran as fast as he could and I just grabbed him as he was jumping.  He got up to his knees and then threw a tantrum because I had to take him home.  The water is only 33 degrees for crying out loud!  It is very tough raising children and being a stay at home mom.  I think that Kelly is probably doing the best that she can as I think is a great thing for a stay at home mom.  I think that she is trying to do her best.  Kelly truely does seem like a very big hearted person and I think she is a good person.  I applaud her efforts for staying married and  trying instead of taking other advice of just getting a divorce, which seems to be rampant in our society.  If someone doesn't like something they should just leave, seems to be the adage.  I have said that I think Grant is going about things the wrong way.  I have a tendency to focus on what is being argued, than sometimes the whole picture.  So when someone responds with a specific about cleaning or organization, for example, I tend to focus on that.  My point on this board has been two fold:  One I feel that Grant should be justified in his feelings.  (it doesn't make all his requests right, but many are legitimate) and two they are both going to have to do some work on their marriage.  I changed to be a better person.  Because of my background, and I won't go into it here.  I am a little hard headed.  If I think I am right than I know I am right.  That isn't a good quality to have.  This is something that I have worked on in our marriage.  The attention to detail thing is huge for me.  I struggle with this everyday, but it makes me a better person,with or without my husband and that is why I try to change it.    I have acknowledged Kelly on the board, but I don't think I have done it as often as people would like to see.  I don't think many people acknowledge the effort that Grant is putting in or that he is a little more straight to the point versus being wordy.  This offends many people and makes them uncomfortable.  I think Dr. Phil chose this couple because he knew this is the reaction that he would get along with the fact that he does want to help.  Thanks for the message.  Sometimes a gentle nudge is all that is needed.