Quote From: judyblue22About 10 times a week, I meet with widows right after their husbands have kicked off to administer their estates. Because of those women, I developed a habit. When my husband does one of the many daily things that get on my nerves -like bunching up towels on the bar instead of folding it so it will dry or putting his clothes on top of the hamper instead of inside-and I feel like venting at him, I just think, "What if this is the last time I will ever get to refold his towel or put is underwear in the hamper?"
That really helps me avoid blowing my top :)
That is a really sobering thought.... what if this is the last time for "whatever".
It is really true. Each little instance that I would consider to be an "infraction" to the standard in my mind doesn't carry much weight compared to the things that are truly important. The emotion that accompanies your "what if" thought can be extremely motivating, I think, when you have it playing over and over in your mind. Another head shrinker with some publicity on the radio talks frequently about a former marine that called into her radio show. The marine taught this talk show therapist an meaningful way to immediately put things into perspective when he told her a story about combat, and deciding if this is the hill you are willing to die trying to take. I don't do the story justice and I am certain someone knows the whole story chapter and verse, so please privilege us with the accurate recounting. Anyway, I acknowledge that I have placed too much energy and time looking at how straight the lines down the road are painted because somewhere behind me, miles ago, I probably missed a turn. Ha ha. I do enjoy hearing from you, Judyblue.
Grant.
