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April 18, 2006, 11:23 am PDT
 Quote From: rhondapat Hi there
Been there with one of my daughters. My oldest daughter was in a residential treatment facility for 6 months (that's all the insurance covers). Upon discharge they recommended giving her up and having her placed in a group residential facility. This I could not do. I called a help line...one of the workers at the residential facility answered my call...he told me he knew my daughter and had worked at that facility and she was completely out of control and no one could handle her and recommended that she did go to that facility. I started going through the steps...the state would've taken over...she would have been placed on medicaid...because she was out of the home for 6 months. I struggled over this and as many people on this board know ... I did not do that. When she was 15 1/2 she was placed into foster care until she was 18. I was not able to protect my other daughter from her violent rages. She was a cutter as well...she still has the scars. You have a very rough decision here...it is not easy...raising a child with these medical concerns.
Well, now here's the hope...she now 27 years old. She is the most fabulous person in the world. She's loving, caring, creative, smart...she is so positive. I actually learn things from her. If I was asked when she was 10...15...18...I would've said...it was not possible. But, it is. I never gave up though...even when she was in foster care...I went and seen her 3 to 4 times a week and we chatted and spent time together. And I'm not going to lie...it is exhausting. But, all worth it when you see how wonderful your child is later in life.
I was a single mom...so it's nice that she has both parents and you have the ability for one of you to stay home...even if it is self-induced.
I guess I would also contact the county mental health association...check what's out there. Go down the yellow pages...check every single resource out there. I did have a doctor resign...because he was not able to help my daughter...but did provide names of doctors who work with these health difficulties. There is help out there...sometimes it feels like there's not...probably because of the lack improvement...all I can say is keep on working, it is much harder than having a healthy child...lots of work, lots of love, lots of patience...all worth it.
Chat with you later. Rhonda Sorry it has taken so long for my reply. My daughter is still in the hospital. She has been placed number 3 on the list to go to a 6 month treatment facility. The only problem is the hospital wants to release her soon and that will drop to number 20 something on the long term list. Everyone is concerned that this is not a good idea. Her case worker from mhmr, most of the people who have known her and us as parents. We also, cannot keep her from cutting on herself. But, this state hospital wants to release her for some reason. They even have a 90 committment signed from a judge. But, that only means they can still release her when they want too.
Also, getting the hospital social worker to return my calls is hard. I'm also afraid we are going to end up placing her in foster care before it's all over. The only thing I'm afraid of more then that is that she won't live long enough to go to the residential treatment center.
Chat with you later, Mary |
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