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August 20, 2005, 7:57 pm PDT
 Quote From: missjane2 When you come from a Christian or religious background, those who believe in the Bible verse that says something to the effect of (not quote/and I'm too lazy to go get my Bible right now): You shouldn't get a divorce EXCEPT for adultery. Now I don't want to undermine the Word of God in anyway because I believe and respect it. But if you look at the time that it was written: 2000 years ago versus today. 2000 years ago you didn't have the adultery GREY areas like you do today. It was black or white. You were or you weren't. Now adays..... the GREY areas meaning: Isn't pornography a form of adultery? Isn't telling someone of the opposite sex other than your spouse all the problems about your spouse a form of emotional adultery? (Didn't they have something called honor 2000 years ago? My grandparents had it.) Isn't child molesting adultery? Isn't practicing gay lifestyle when you are committed to a heterosexual relationship adultery... cheating if your spouse doesn't know? Isn't Swinging adultery? Isn't all the places in America you can go and become infatuated with someone other than your spouse adultery? I know I could list more....
BUT if you or your spouse does any of these or gets addicted and not just the simplest adultery definition of 2 married people having a cheating relationship, Aren't your feelings just as hurt or life as devastated as had they run off? BUT the Church has CONFUSION on how to counsel these GREY situations. WHEN THE TRUTH IS NOWADAYS WE LIVE IN AN ADULTEROUS GENERATION. And honestly I think it is in innocense for some people because you don't have to look very far to find any of these situations.
And this is one reason I like this show because Pastors all over America are approached with these problems that people approach Dr. Phil with and they don't know what to say and often make the situations worse by their advice. I agree with you about the adultery and the bible talks about lust and thinking it is the same as committing it so even the "you can look but not touch" strategy is wrong in my opinion. Now, as I said in my last post that temptation is gonna be there as that is a normal thing in this life but we don't have to heed to it and in my opinion if one feels that erge to cheat and committ adultery which means sex with some one other then your spouse, they should feel confident enough in their marriage to go to their partner and explain what is happening within them, and hopefully they can work together on the situation and if one or both doesn't feel that they can trust and confide in their partner then the marriage is already doomed and chances are they are gonna do more then think about it. and all the things you mention I believe are forms of adultery for it involves sex with someone other then the spouse. |
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August 20, 2005, 8:11 pm PDT
Quote From: missjane2 When you come from a Christian or religious background, those who believe in the Bible verse that says something to the effect of (not quote/and I'm too lazy to go get my Bible right now): You shouldn't get a divorce EXCEPT for adultery. Now I don't want to undermine the Word of God in anyway because I believe and respect it. But if you look at the time that it was written: 2000 years ago versus today. 2000 years ago you didn't have the adultery GREY areas like you do today. It was black or white. You were or you weren't. Now adays..... the GREY areas meaning: Isn't pornography a form of adultery? Isn't telling someone of the opposite sex other than your spouse all the problems about your spouse a form of emotional adultery? (Didn't they have something called honor 2000 years ago? My grandparents had it.) Isn't child molesting adultery? Isn't practicing gay lifestyle when you are committed to a heterosexual relationship adultery... cheating if your spouse doesn't know? Isn't Swinging adultery? Isn't all the places in America you can go and become infatuated with someone other than your spouse adultery? I know I could list more....
BUT if you or your spouse does any of these or gets addicted and not just the simplest adultery definition of 2 married people having a cheating relationship, Aren't your feelings just as hurt or life as devastated as had they run off? BUT the Church has CONFUSION on how to counsel these GREY situations. WHEN THE TRUTH IS NOWADAYS WE LIVE IN AN ADULTEROUS GENERATION. And honestly I think it is in innocense for some people because you don't have to look very far to find any of these situations.
And this is one reason I like this show because Pastors all over America are approached with these problems that people approach Dr. Phil with and they don't know what to say and often make the situations worse by their advice. Yes, the bible was written a long time ago. It was also written by MEN who were fallible, who were politically-motivated, and who considered women property. Additionally, the bible has been revised and translated several times from and into languages that were not always compatible. Finally, there was a politically-motivated editing process that took place over the course of hundreds of years by which various books and writings were left out of the bible because they were considered too inflammatory, most notable perhaps a book believed to be written by Mary Magdalen who, if you pay attention to recent scholarship, is no longer believed to have been a prostitute at all but Jesus' most-trusted confidante and companion and perhaps his wife. We need to live lives of integrity regardless of our religious affiliations. Religions are human constucts anyway, and are flawed systems because of this. A truly moral person doesn't need any man-made notion of "God" to know right from wrong where adultery or anything else is concerned. |
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