Quote From: mamaboanI am too sad to say that your story today of the mother drug addict,once again is a mirrored story of my daughters life.I am raising her three children here because of her drug/aclohol addictions.these children could tell many sad ,horrifiying stories of what they lived in,lived through,prior to coming to live with us.We have not seen my daughter in over 19 months,when she calls,she is either high and crazy or totally depressed and crazy.My husband and I have given up our life to see that these children have a safe,happy,secure,loved life without the dangers of drug addicts around.Sure the children are sad that their parents love drugs more than them but at least they know now they are safe and loved.My oldest granddaughter tells me she not only lost her mama,she lost her grandma,me,because i have to be her mama.so much sadness is involved when people choose to live this way,as Dr. phil just said, the scarring last a life time,not just for the children but for me,my daughters mama.Five years ago my husband and I had secure jobs, a secure bank account and looking forward to these days when we could be a couple doing things in our middleaged years,now we are parents all over again and the bank account is gone,Nevertheless, I would not take anything for the opportunity to give these children a new life, its just hard going to bed at night knowing my daughter is out there doing drugs all the time,at any cost.
I fully understand what you and your spouse are going through. My brother and sister in law (at age 57) have had to take legal guardianship of their 3 grandchildren since their daughter got caught up in the drug scene and decided she no longer wanted to be a mom to her 3 children. (they have no idea where she is or has been the past 4 mths) They, too, (brother and wife of 38 years) were looking forward to doing all of the nice things they EARNED after being married all those years and having very good jobs, and a nice nest egg.....but now are starting all over raising 3 children.
If I would ever find my niece I would like to ask her why she felt that it was ok to abandon 3 children and to just assume her Mom and Dad would take on this task of raising 3 more children. My brother and his wife were the ideal family role model parents. ALWAYS involved in their daughters school activities, their sports, etc. They ensured their daughters were living a nice life and kept God involved in their life, while giving them a loving, spiritual, emotional, healthy life.....and this is how she takes on the responsibility of her own children?
But, as you and your husband have mentioned above, he and my sister in law will do all within their means to give these 3 children a good life with love, huggs, save, secure and as happy as they can make it for them.
I have asked all of my friends who know my brother to keep him and his wife in their nightly prayers, because he has to keep working and keep his health great for the next 9 years. (that is when the youngest one will turn 18) I will keep you in my prayers want to say to you, "YOU ARE A VERY SUPER GRANDMA AND GRANDPA and MAY GOD BLESS YOU TENFOLD"
