I think the daughter has put up with enough from her mother sometimes in life it is very necessary to just walk away and never return the mother keeps calling her back as well as the grandmother one person can only do so much and be hurt so many times I have gone to a preacher and asked the same question honer thy mother and father only goes so far and a mother can brake that and the sounds of this this mother broke that when she was a child and she has made herself a woman with no help from the so called mother figure she had in her life and she should hold her head up for her and her children everyday and be as proud as she can be.She made something of her self and shes no worthless drug addict looking for someone to blame. They always look for someone to blame and honey you don't have to be her flunky any longer you are a self sufficent women and having this kinda mother you do not need trust be i have been right where you are and i have had to make alot of the same decisions it's hard but living with the feeling of blame is harder. i wish you all the luck in the world .