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April 4, 2006, 3:09 pm PDT
I feel your pain
Quote From: bakerygrlli just dont know what to do.My husband of 11 years is addicted to internet porn and does not have sex with me anymore even though i am in great shape and really want it with him.i recently found out that he was instant messaging a 23 year old girl from one of his accounts and has been lying to me about who she was.it turns out he has been lying to me about alot of things over the years and has created elaborate stories to tell me so i would believe the lies.he has promised me on numerous occasions that he would stop lying.looking at porn and talking to the 23 year old.i have caught him doing all this and more many times.this time i have told him to move out if he doesnt stop.he has started going to a therapist for his addictions and i have as well.i still dont know what to do,however,because i cant seem to trust him or believe him about anything.the therapist tells me i need to make a decision.i still have hope that our marriage can be saved.we have no children.i consider him my best friend,as i can rely on him for alot.i just cant keep living with a person i cant trust. I am going through a similar situation and have posted my story. I consider my husband my best friend too and realized through therapy no one would treat their best friend the way our husbands are treating us. Work on yourself and what does and will make you happy. I am a stay at home mother of 2 five year olds and would leave my husband in a minute if he ever starts dating someone. The internet is great for locating information and paying bills and for your childrens education, but once a person gets into the porn and all this online chatting I think marriages are in for a big surprise. I do not go onto the internet with the intent of finding someone new or doing anything to disrespect my husband. Our husbands have lost respect for themselves and for their spouses and I don't know if there is a way to regain that respect. I thought my husband was doing this because I had gained weight, but after reading your message, I see this is happening to several women and it doesn't discriminate.
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