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April 4, 2006, 4:45 pm PDT

Get a paternity test

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hi  im 22 years old and me and my husband have been spilt up for 6 months and i really want him back and he don't want to get back together what should i do ? I know he still loves me and i still love him . After we split he found out i cheated on him and now im going to have a baby in about 8 weeks and not sure if its his are not. He says its not his.THat was not the reason we spilt till he found out than really didn't want me back if i could turn back time i would .I feel like he is not giveing this time to be fix are to give me a 2nd go round what shold i do
A paternity test will answer the question of who the father is. How will that help your relationship is up to you. The boy was hurt when he found out about the affair. Why you split up is unimportant now.  If after you've had the paternity test and he is the father, he may feel differently towards you. But if not,  the real father still  needs to be told.  If you really want your husband back try making amends for cheating.   
 
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April 7, 2006, 5:13 am PDT

ladybuy21

Quote From: ladybuy21

hi  im 22 years old and me and my husband have been spilt up for 6 months and i really want him back and he don't want to get back together what should i do ? I know he still loves me and i still love him . After we split he found out i cheated on him and now im going to have a baby in about 8 weeks and not sure if its his are not. He says its not his.THat was not the reason we spilt till he found out than really didn't want me back if i could turn back time i would .I feel like he is not giveing this time to be fix are to give me a 2nd go round what shold i do
     Coming from the one who was cheated on. IT IS SO PAINFUL, every time they touch you you wonder are they thinking of them... me....some one else? Am I the one they want?  I gave my husband another chance and we have moved on as best as we can. but when there is little trust it is hard. If he took you back could you live with him happily in love knowing he could never trust you again?   I just don't understand what leads up to the point where you can let yourself cross the line.. I am truly sorry for your pain. AND I wish some how your husband could forgive you (but he'll never forget)  Just maybe if this baby turns out to be your husbands he will be able to find his way back to you, but you really need to know and understand things will never be the same.  Regardless of what happened and what is going on you will have a BEAUTIFUL baby. When I had my heart broke, shattered. I put my husbands hand on my heart and said " You broke it you fix it".  This response is not to make you feel worse, I know you wish you could change things. I hope this will kinda let you see that cheating is the worst kinda pain (I would rather be in labor for days.... ). I have been married for almost 17 years and have 3 kids.  You said you loved your husband and you knew he still loved you, take the time to ask your self  ARE WE IN LOVE there is a difference. I could tell you all the details on my troubles but just don't think it will help you any. My heart breaks for you and i hope all your wishes in life come true. No matter what you have done you still deserve to be happy. Give him time to try to forgive if your meant to be together it will happen. Pray God is listening and he loves you. Turn to him and let his will be done. Have faith I will keep you in my prayers.
 
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