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bachor
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April 5, 2006, 9:24 am PDT

honesty is always better

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 Hi This message is for Todd ( if by chance you would read this)
Todd, I would just like to send out some encouragement.. I saw you on the show this morning and I was impressed with your personality! I must say: keep your personality and don't alter it because it didn't work with the last girl, trust me it will cause problems in the next relationship if it is altered. See, I met a man who was pretty much in the same situation you are in, and he changed his personality becasue it didn't work for him with the last girl.. needless to say the different personality I met was the one I was looking for, then later, when he became more comfortable with me and himself around me the true personality came out... after we got married.
Changing is deciving and misleading.. I was looking for a guy like you but got a man like the others I had dated. You are a wonderful person who will find another  wonderful person as long as you make sure you are honest about yourself  :0) Have a great day and happy dating!
Michelle
how long did you date this guy?   i would think one could fkake a personality for so long before it got aught up to him or her.  i dated the man i am with a year before i moved in with him then dated for 4  more then we got married.
 
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April 5, 2006, 6:49 pm PDT

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Quote From: mishelley

 Hi This message is for Todd ( if by chance you would read this)
Todd, I would just like to send out some encouragement.. I saw you on the show this morning and I was impressed with your personality! I must say: keep your personality and don't alter it because it didn't work with the last girl, trust me it will cause problems in the next relationship if it is altered. See, I met a man who was pretty much in the same situation you are in, and he changed his personality becasue it didn't work for him with the last girl.. needless to say the different personality I met was the one I was looking for, then later, when he became more comfortable with me and himself around me the true personality came out... after we got married.
Changing is deciving and misleading.. I was looking for a guy like you but got a man like the others I had dated. You are a wonderful person who will find another  wonderful person as long as you make sure you are honest about yourself  :0) Have a great day and happy dating!
Michelle

Michelle, 

  

Thanks, that is an interesting view and I will remember what you have said.  As with all breakups, I have been going through the normal rediscovering of who I really am.  I am getting my smile back and starting to enjoy life more and more.  I hope the personality you were attracted to, grows even more stable and I will remember to be true to who I am.  Sorry you expereinced what you did.  Good luck in finding the right person! 

  

Todd 
 
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