Replies to 'Defining Your Authentic Self'

I find myself, that those that act (perfect?) are actually want you to take a kind of 'hypocritical' oath, to do things beyond what these others have found acceptable for themselves.  Why they do that, is puzzling, but I must remind myself, to some degree it is a weakness that every one has given in to in order to create a disruption from something else, this could just be  a way of relieving stress or boredom.  If there is a better way of meeting this problem, then it is up to you show it. 

  

   

Unless these people know your past or have read your diaries or someone has published your sins in the newspaper and they have read it; then they don't know your past. 

  

Before I read SELF MATTERS and applied the techniques to my life, I always lived my life believing that I was being judged for what I had done or been.  Not for who I am NOW. 

  

Like the show STARTING OVER.  When you have truly forgiven yourself and have let your past go, you have started over totally and your past is just that, your past.  It was hard for me to understand that and then to work thru my own faulty thinking about the people around me.  

  

It's not easy to let your past go ... I spent years working on it and now, well, I really don't care what I did in the past. I just use it as a reference as what I will not do the next time and those memories no longer circulate in my head.  It's like they've been erased. I know that they defined me, now they just are memories like of me spending a neat day with my family at the park.  They no longer own me. 

 Many times the answers we're looking for are right there in our own words.  You say, "...some of the girls...get on my nerves really bad. They act so perfect...I feel as if they are judging me...I'm a good person but...I have done things I regret." I think there is self-judgment here.
Now read this with extra attention: "I do not act like I'm better than other people...but how do I deal with people who act like their sh*t don't stink and they have no skeletens in their closet?...I know that no one is perfect,...I...go to college with a lot of bitc*es." Who is judging who?
And last: "I'm so tired of being made to feel like I'm ashamed of myself...all I want to do is become a better person in life and to learn from my mistakes." Again, the self-judgment.

Your words reflect how you feel inside. Is it REALLY what these girls are doing and saying? Are they belittling you, or saying condescending things to you, or showing you in some other way that they are intentionally putting you below them?
Please don't misinterpret me, I'm not on their side, I'm on your side. I too used to feel judged and put down, until it became clear that nobody judged me as badly as I judged myself. What I projected upon them was only a mirror of my own self-hate.
I too was sick and tired of being made to feel ashamed of who I was. It takes this sort of attitude to finally decide to do something about it. When you learn to accept yourself and all of your past events with self-love, it makes no difference what others say or do to you. It becomes their mistake and their loss. SELF MATTERS is not a quick fix, but it will help you change the rest of your life.
My advice is to get the book and read it. Granted, it won't help you with the girls at school right now, but it will help you with others like them in the future.

Good luck to you.