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June 12, 2008, 7:37 am PDT
anal sex
Quote From: lilacmessTouchy subject. I had never been willing to try anal before my husband. I had also never been interested in toys before him. Something is just different with my husband, though, and I'm willing to try just about anything with him. I suppose it has a lot to do with with the love I know he feels for me and that I know he would NEVER want to do anything sexually that would hurt me or make me feel demeaned. He's all about pleasing me, and if something doesn't have that potential, he's not into it. Your husband sounds very self-centered. I don't know if you've considered this, but the porn is a big problem, too. He probably wouldn't be so intent on having anal sex if he weren't looking at porn all the time. In my opinion, he shouldn't be looking at porn at all unless it's with you and the content meets your approval. It is not okay for him to waste his sexual energy on images of other women. This act alone is incredibly disrespectful to you. No wonder you don't feel safe trying something new with him. I wouldn't either. I just finished writing an academic paper about internet pornography. Studies have shown that porn has the ability to act on the brain the same way herion or cocaine do. In other words, it can be addictive and, as with drugs, the addicted individual needs more and more and more of it to get his fix until the porn alone isn't enough and he needs to act out what he sees. I would take the porn thing more seriously if I were you. The fact that he now wants to do something to you that would make you feel degraded says it all. Good luck. i am totally with the other woman about buying the biggest one possible using it on him, and once he finds out how bad it hurts then maybe he will stop worrying you about it, and let your doctor tell him that you have a medical condition that prevents this, and block all porn sites on your computer and taht will stop that,i think its abusive to you emotionally with him saying those things to you, myself. i am a open minded person and i try anything but this cause i am sorry buy it just makes me think of gay men. could he be bi sexual and you not know it, i mean i caught mine looking at twinkies a few years ago, i have sensed blocked everything, and he has admited that he did that along time before me, and that makes me wary, but i also have not had sex with him in two years, but this is all his fault. he never wants it. there are alot of things that couples can try without doing this if you dont wont it and he should respect that at . did he try this when you were dating?
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