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April 24, 2006, 5:40 pm PDT
Listen to your heart
Quote From: lorna_jane Me and my boyfriend have been together off and on for five years. I say that because in high school we were kind of each others boody calls type of thing. Well we have been together for almost 3 years and lived together for 2. We have 2 kids but live with his parents. We have a house that we have bought but not all fixed enough to live in. We have talked about getting married forever it seems but haven't done it. Sometimes he gets on my nerves alot but i think because i stay at home with the boys right now and then go to night school. Then again we live with his parents and two brothers. Which makes a total of 8 people living in a 4 bedroom house. Its crowded. So i stay pretty stressed out. But i haven't had someone that i could trust in my life to talk about my feelings. So i don't talk about how i feel. His mother keeps pushing us to get married but my mother is all ways negative and says stuff about him or us doing things together. (like getting married or living together) I don't know if we should get married or not because i only want to be married once because my parents are devorced and both have been married often. I know how that feels. But then on his side his parents have been married for 20 years. Only on of his aunts have been divorced and everyone else has been married for 20 or more years. I just want to talk to someone about how i feel or if anyone else has every been this position.
Thanks, for listening.
Feel free to e-mail anytime. TuttiFruttiTuki@yahoo.com It seems like you are more concerned about what has happened in yours and his familiy's marriages then what is actually happening in your prospective married life. Don't let other's decisions and commitments hinder yours. Does anyone really know what it will be like to grow with someone for the next X amount of years? It's a leap of faith, and takes work. Think about what it means to make such a strong, loving, life-long commitment to the one you love. Think about what you have, and what you want for the future. Granted, your current situation does seem very stressful, and may not allow for much thinking room, or personal time to yourself. However,I wouldn't be surprised if you moved into your home and everything fell naturally into place shortly their after. Don't let anyone pressure you into something you don't feel 100% prepared for. The decision is 100% yours to make, no matter what the details are. If you are ready, its all about making the commitment. Screw the timing, or the odds, money may be another issue, but if you feel you are ready to make that commitment to be with someone, nothing should stand in your way. That's how I look at it. Good luck!
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