Replies to '04/12 Dangerous Love'

It's nice to hear of the patience that you endured, because it seems like you are a mother before anything else. 

The funny thing is that all my husbands wanted me back after all they did to me.  I just couldn't accept it.  They hurt me so much and then it's like, honey let's put ********** behind us.  Well, with the first two I had no children, so there was no way I was going to be patient. 

With my third husband, God blessed me with a girl.  I stayed in that marriage for 5 years (the longest), for the sake of my daughter.  3 of those years he was not even with us.  I just thought the fact that we were married would at least be good for my girl. 

We then got divorced and I was reading so much about the negativity of girls not developing a strong relationship with their fathers and that will affect them in adulthood. 

So, I said,well it seems the right thing to do to get remarried to provide my girl with a dad. 

My neighbours introduced me to this man, a professor, well established, mature, respectful family, etc.   

But all that, I found out, you can throw out the window and the one thing I asked for was to be patient with my daughter and give her time to adjust and he showed me otherwise. 

I told him a few months ago that I no longer wish to continue this marriage and will be leaving this summer. 

I wanted to leave then, but he asked me to give him some time to change.  I still feel I can't do this, and I will never be able to raise my daughter the way I want to.   

So, like I said, I want to be single to raise my daughter. And as you said love doesn't have to come from a man. 

The thing is that I don't have a man in my family that I can put my head on his shoulders.  I so much wish that my dad was alive today, so I can cry on his shoulders and ask him, why men are like that. 

I don't know if you know what I mean by that.  It's like when you need a man in your life like a brother or a father who you can get advice from, and who will support you emotionally.