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April 13, 2006, 11:11 am PDT
Married/Engaged too soon
Quote From: jenoc99Studies show that people who live together first actually have a higher divorce rate than people who don't live together first- kind of surprising don't you think? I thought so at first, but then I really thought about it, and it makes sense. When two people live together, often times there is this fantasy that once the wedding is over, their partner will 'magicaly' change into the perfect husband/wife. And then, that doesn't happen. What happens is that life goes right back to the way it was before the wedding.
Anyone considering getting married after only a few months/weeks together, slow down! What is the rush!? I think that most of us want to find that partner to be with forever, but its best to go slow and steady instead of fast and furious like that first couple on the show. Well, what about pre-marital sex??? Everyone seems to be skipping that part. A lot of folks just want to get on with it so they can, well, get it on! There are still couples who actually wait to get married before making love. I know a lot of relationships and marriages, including my own, that have failed for many reasons. For whatever it's worth, it is truly up to the individuals. Everyone moves at a pace comfortable to them at the time. For example, I knew my "test" husband (my ex) as a good, good friend for fifteen years before tying the knot. We became romantically involved, were married eight months later and I divorced him eighteen months after that!!! Gee. And I thought I knew him after fifteen years of friendship! He was great as a friend, and eventually, a date, but just LOUSY as a husband! Sometimes you just can't tell about someone; even after many years of thinking you know them.
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