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April 15, 2006, 4:20 pm PDT
Awesome insight
Quote From: alaskagal5 Marriage and love are a committment. You don't fall in and out of love. I believe in love at first sight, but probably in a much different way than most. My husband and I met on July 3 and were married two months later. That was nearly 21 years ago. We love each other very much, always have. But we have worked at our relationship. It's a relationship that we established, we wanted from day one.
Can love at first sight work? I'm living proof that it can, but the two people have to be committed to each other, not to the idea of the magic of love. Love isn't a feeling, it's a committment!
I loved what you said. I agree 100%. We established before our big day what things were important to us. I brought a son into the picture and my husband a mother that is a bit out of it. Its not always easy to deal with these other things...marriage isn't just about the two married but the entire family.... Love is a feeling in my book but it doesnt mean anything if it comes without honesty and commitment. That is True love. I am so in love with my husband but I'm also in love with our life together. Its heathly, its happy and its constantly growning and maturing. Should we have waited more than 2 months...maybe...but I still today and I know he does too because we talk alot about things, that we did the right thing for us. Congrats on your 21 years...I know we're going to make it too because we both want it and are committed to making it happen. I also have to say he's the most awesome dad to my son (who was 13 when we met). Dr. Phil is wrong on that one area regarding step parents shouldnt discipline...for us it really has helped because my son adores my husband, thinks of him as dad (his dad has never really been around) and respects the hell out of him. So if its the right man and the right discipline...it does work for a step parent...especially when you're a single mom of a boy... they do need a man figure to emulate in life.
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