Quote From: rm4imprvmtIs it wrong to say give "fill in the blank" up or I am leaving? My situation is pretty convoluted. I am 26 and have been with my bf for 1.5 years which is a very short time. He dips, smokes, and drinks. He does not live a healthy lifestyle and he is very aware of my concern of him getting cancer or dying early. I feel like he is slowly commiting suicide by putting all these harmful things into his body. He has told me in the past that he has quit but then will start again. He has done this three times. I told him that I can not trust him about anything anymore because his words mean nothing. If he hides these things from me than what else don't I know. On the other hand, he loves and adores me more than any man ever has. He is upfront and honest about everything else. He has goals and is an amazing man. He doesn't abuse me or treat me badly. He takes care of me and is also very romantic. I want to grow old with him but I don't see how that is possible if he dies young or becomes very ill due to his health problems. I am SO confused about wether or not I should just deal with his bad and unhealthy habits because he is so good to me or if I should leave and find someone I can enjoy a long life with.
He sounds like a great guy and I clearly understand your concern about his health and your future together. Smoking is incredibly hard to quit (trust me I'm still fighting it) - HE HAS TO WANT TO QUIT . You need to mentally be ready to quit or else he will just keep going back to them. The hard part about smoking is that nicotine is so addictive and it's everywhere!! When he is ready, he will quit. - Drinking, if it's excessive then obviously it's a problem. If he's only a social drinker, I'd say that's okay. I don't drink and I can't tolerate drunks, but I never complain about a few beers or a glass of wine or two.
I haven't got a clue as to what dips is????
You seem to be really into health - kudos to you! Give him some slack until he is ready to quit smoking, when he is, ask him to try a hypnotist. It worked for me 3 times but I went back to smoking as I put on 25 pounds each time. Of course I regret that now but I will quit again WHEN I am mentally ready.
