Quote From: hmeow29I have three girls. Ages almost 12, 14, 15. I've always considered myself cautious, but alot say in strict. But I'm about to let my oldest date. I worry about this topic because, what if they cover it up or abuse their date also? My oldest does have a temper, and when she gets real upset she can really blow her top. So how do I know what's happening. I mean what other signs are there besides the obvious ones? Plus what if they hide it from us? I hope that this show explains a little more detail then what you can see, and to approach them with the right questions . I know he only has so little time to do his show. So if anyone out there can give some advice. I thank you very much.
Mary
Mary,
I too used to have an attitude problem when I was younger that drove my parents crazy. Trust me when I say that your daughter is moody and has an attitude probably because she's confused about her place in life, she has her own everyday issues to deal with that she doesn't want to burden you with (because hey...she probably thinks you won't understand)....etc. There are so many things she could be feeling and it isn't your job to try to understand those things, but rather to just let her know you support her. Try to plan things with her and encourage her. And as for the dating thing....group dates are acceptable if you trust and know the kids going out. But you should set limitations on where they're going and how long they can be out. If you ever have an opportunity, you should talk to you daughter about standards that she has for herself where boys are concerned. She may think you're lame for doing it, but believe me she'll retain the information. Let her know that violence in any form is unacceptable, as is cheating. Let her know you're always there to listen and advise her withouth holding judgement. Kids say that they don't need parents to talk so much, but in spite of their attitudes about it, they really do listen. But they won't know anything if you don't tell them.
