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February 24, 2009, 5:26 am PST
TEEN DATING AND ABUSE
Quote From: dmmtfamMy heart really goes out to anyone who has ever been in an abusive relationship. I was also involved with a drug addict who was verbally and emotionally abusive as well as on the verge of being physically abusive. The day a closet door went flying across the room was the day I left. I was only 20 years old and had much more important things to do with my life than trying to "save" him from himself. I thought that he would quit drinking for me, quit doing drugs for me and that he would eventually show me how much he loved me (he always said it so he had to mean it, right?). Eventually I smartened up and left, I hope that any girl in that situation will find the courage to do the same. Get out before it's too late. Lucklily I found out I was pregnant with his child after I left or I just might have stayed. Thankfully, it hurt his pride enough when I left that he hasn't come around to try and see my daughter. Things do work out girls! I moved on got married to a wonderful man 4 years ago and he and I are raising our daughter and son together with absolutely no contact from him what so ever. I beg any young girl in a similar situation to find your courage and believe that there is something better waiting for you. You deserve it. I hope you find your happily ever after like I did. I just wanted to let you know that I am so proud of the decision that you made for yourself to get out of the dangerous situation that you were in. I pray every day that my daughter opens her eyes and gets out of the situation that she's in. I am scared to death that she is going to end up marrying this guy. I have talked to her until I don't even know what else to say. Everyone in her family has tried to talk to her but it does no good...she says that she's in love and according to her he would never phyically abuse her....she has promised me that he has never physically abused her but I know that he has been verbally abusive.Her friends have told me that they've seen him push her up against her car and get in her face numerous times and one of her best friend's told me that my daughter told her about a time when he locked her in the bathroom when she was at his house and told her that she could come out when she learned how to act...she however says that none of this is true. He's had to be escorted out from the place that she works for yelling at her on two different occasions and has now been banned from the property of her school because he got verbally abusive with the principal over a cell phone. She will be 18 next month and I am scared to death that she is going to end up either moving in with him or marrying him. I don't know what to do anymore...I can't sleep, my stomach is constantly upset and my husband is dealing with the same thing. I'm trying to reach out to as many people as I can at this point..I don't know what else to do. So any advice would be very much appreciated.
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