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April 17, 2006, 8:28 pm PDT
grouchy 15 yo
Quote From: hmeow29It is to young to date at 15. I was going to allow her to see boys only with a group of friends. I thought that would be a good start. Maybe I'm wrong. She is such a loner I thought if she started to date within a group of friends she would become more friendlier, and less grouchy. Like I said before she has major attuide, so I'm trying to get her to be a happier person.
Mary Unfortunately, you cannot get her to be a happier person. It's her choice. Is she depressed? I was moody and a loner and generally unpleasant in high school and that is what it turned out to be. (Too bad I did not find out until way later.) If it isn't biochemical it could be situational. Then you just need to let her know you will neither judge her nor ignore her. Tell her this! She may roll her eyes or pretend to ignore you but she will hear it. If she is just choosing to be grumpy, let her know it is affecting people around her and you don't want to hear it. Dating won't solve the problem. If she cannot be learn to be happy on her own right now then you don't want her to feel she must depend on others to be happy. Maybe she just needs a new hobby or activity that she can get involved in. (Yes, I know she is 15 but it is still important!! Clearly I missed out on the being "cool" part of my teen years.)
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