Replies to '07/06 Baby Wars'

While I think men should have their responsibility too, I agree with what you're saying.  Women have fought long and hard to have a choice on whether or not to have the child they are carrying ( Whether it's abortion or adoption- although I think adoption is a better choice so it's gives the kid a chance).  People say "Then he shouldn't have sex with the woman".  Sex is a two way street (Unless it's rape).   

Please, no hate replies. I'm not making a fight, just an opinion.  Men should live up to their responsibilities as women (Or give their baby a good home or whatever's right for the situation), but the whole thing is so one sided.   

Yes, I'm a woman.   

You're exactly right. Its sexist to claim that women should only get choices and men only get consequences. That view, in fact, infantalises women, so its really the ultimate not just in 

misandry, but in misogyny, too. 

Granted, men and women cannot be fuly equal in this area, that is, if a man wants a child, he does need to procure a willing woman who wnats to do that with him. That should be the standard for both men and for women, even though women can, biologically speaking, go it alone, after they 

get some sperm. But, as with many other htings, that we can do a thing, does not mean that we should do it. The data on the harms to children of being made deliberately fatherless is massive, 

and unrefutable. If some man hating women say " we don't need men ", then I say back, " fine, 

do so without our sperm and money, too. Thats... consistant ". 

I could not have said it better myself.  We as women have fought long and hard for our reproductive rights.  I don't agree that women should be able to hold all the cards and make all the decisions where bringing an unplanned and often unwelcomed baby into this world.  I feel that if a "sperm donor" does not want to become a father and the woman decides to keep the baby, the "sperm donor" should be able to sign away his rights and not be obligated to pay child support.  Let the woman raise the baby on her own.  No man should be forced into paying for a child he doesn't want.   In the end the child will ultimately pay the price.  

You're absolutely right! 

There should be equal decisions made, but what can be done about disagreements on having children. Nothing but unfair laws. Thats why there is so much birth control. It's sad if you think about it. Children are miracles, making a baby takes a man and a woman. So really; find someone you love and do the right thing. Make a miracle!