Replies to 'Being a Good Friend'

You are being worn down by her complaining- it seems like you are more worried than she is- that proves to you how little she cares about her own life! You care more than she does! At this point, it has to be too painfull for you to stand by and watch her ruin her own life, and I wouldn't be able to tolerate it anymore, either, if I were you. You tried your best, but she isn't interested in making a better life- she is interested in creating more drama because she lives in the role of the "victim." If she does something to better herself, than she won't be in this comfortable victim role, and she wouldn't know what to do with herself because she is so used to being like this. She doesn't know how to, nor does she want to know how to, create harmony and happiness. You don't need this constant drain on your energy. You were a good friend, but there comes a time when you need to just give up because she doesn't want resolution, she wants the drama. I wish you well!