Replies to 'Relationship Myths'

My mom had renewed and revived her credit in my younger years but then ended up marrying another man that took advantage of her very good nature. She was WONDERFUL after she left my dad and before she got remarried. She was able to pay my way through college, get loans, and pay off her car. She just went to her bank and talked to a financial advisor for free and took all their advice on repairing her credit. She also called her creditors and explained the situation. As long as you continue to make a good faith effort to pay off debts they will work with you. The divorce lawyer also forced him to pay his part and the court upheld it. On the flip side, when she got remarried to another mooch dead beat, he did the same thing. He killed all her cats, kicked me out of the house, bought a brand new car and motorcycle, and on top of it all he quit his job! She got very sick and had to get shots into her eardrums just so she could walk. She gained weight and was unable to be the "southern baptist" wife if he wanted and he left. She now has depression, PTSD, and anxiety disorder from being put through the wringer by these two men. I guess what I am trying to say is once you leave, don't go back to the same kind of guy. She was so successful and happy when she was single and was able to be there for me emotionally and financially. I am an only child so we were very close. I knew as soon as I met her 2nd husband that he was no good although he charmed the rest of our family. You should get counseling so that you are able to recognize the signs and have the strength to leave any other man that may not be worthy of your love. My mom ended up on medication to deal with it instead of counseling although she believes she can see red flags from a mile away, she still was choosing the charmers that have no or low paying jobs, bad credit, and smooth talk. She listens to me now (Since I am in grad school getting my Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy) and will hopefully stay single until she is ok with herself. She has now gone back to school to get her accounting degree and is so much better off alone than she has ever been with a man.