Quote From: leightonThank GOD!!! I just posted not too long ago that Dr Phil should do a show on NPD (Narcissisist Personality Disorder), and I find out that he is doing a show on Thursday. From watching the tape preview it is not what I thought it might be, but I will be glued to my television. Please don't soft shoe this personality disorder!!!
I survived a relationship/marriage with an NPD not too long ago, and the turmoil and difficulty and mostly the pain they leave behind is unbelievable. You are left spinning, wondering "what did I do wrong, how come I was so flawed," until deep therapy revealed this horrifice behavior/pathological symptoms were NOT my fault. It has been almost a year until "he was done with me as his supply" and brutally tossed me out (which is actually a God-send now that I look back). He took me to the cleaners in a 9-month marriage, $40,000.00, when he quit his job and I was left supporting him, his son from a previous marriage and his ex-wife's child support while he kept promising to get a job. He is a user, an abuser, and never looked back on what he did. He was sexually horrific to me, but I put up with it in order not to "lose him." I thank GOD every day that he is gone from my life.
Dr. Phil, keep helping the survivors' of this mess, we never know we are in it until it is too late or we are thrown out and left reeling and not knowing what happened, when we had to deal with these horrific monsters. Relationships are no longer an option because there is NO trust left due to the tragic damage NPD's cause. Again, thank you for this beginning show, but keep delving into the survivor end of it -- we need each other. I am a member of an invite-only NPD survivor's email group and I am amazed that we are all alive to tell about it (emotionally). Read the book by Les Carter, Enough About You, Let's Talk About Me -- I am currently looking for a copy but it comes highly recommended and anything that will help me continue to heal (with the great help and strength of the Lord by my side) and understand this will one day make me a whole person again. NPD's are NOT human.
Debi
I have read much of the feedback on Shannon and NPD. Hindsight of 100% and too bad we don't have it at the time we need it. At the time, Shannon's family truly did what they thought best and followed the advice given by professionals. In hindsight, I am sure they would have done things differently. Before we criticize so harshly, we need to walk in the other persons shoes. How can any of us know what Shannon is like at home? I know that as a teen, I certainly acted differently at home than in public. People other than family members always saw my best side, so I certainly understand what this family was trying to tell Dr. Phil. The one statement that Dr. Phil made that I agree with is - Shannon's behavior is unacceptable. From some of the advice that Dr. Phil has given to guests on his show, I don't think that he has a clue about some teen girls and some women who aren't as wonderful as Robin.
