Jack:
Please don't beat yourself up over this. I am an abuser survivor and I couldn't come from a better home. I was young, and I met a man that was staying at the hotel where I worked. He worked construction and moved from state to state, I thought that sounded better than my boring life. The first time my Mother met him, she told me something was wrong with him, even though he was on his best behaviour. She begged me not to move out of state with him but I was legally an adult and she couldn't stop me.
My mom was absolutley right there was something wrong with him, the abuse started two weeks after we had moved to a new city. For the next ten months I was screamed at, called filthy names, and had things thrown at me. I wasn't allowed to have food or water unless he gave it to me. He said his dog was on a schedule why should I be any different.
Finally I was allowed to fly home for Christmas, I only had the clothes I was wearing and another change of clothes in a duffel bag. When my Mom saw me the first time, she was horrified at how I looked. I had been so humiliated and beaten down I could barely function. Mom convinced not ot go back, I recieved counseling at the battered women's shelter. At first he would call me all time, he would cry and beg me to forgive him, then he blamed his behaviour on his drinking problem. He told me he had started attending AA and he finally realized how bad he had treated me. But with the help of my family and my counselor I stood strong. It took a long time but I finally got my life back, I am now married to a wonderful man we have been together three years now and he has never even raised his voice to me!! we had our first child in January.
Please tell Katie to be strong and resist the temptation to return to her baby's father, if I had not left my boyfriend I honestly beliee he would have killed me, he had started to threaten me with it and he owukd have eventually made good on his promise. I believe Katie's boyfriend is capable of the same thing.
I am praying over all of you.
Misty
