Replies to '08/02 "I Love Myself!"'

I haven't seen the show in it's entirety as of yet. Are you talking about the statement, "If she died tomorrow, I wouldn't shed a tear"? That does sound extremely cold, doesn't it? That said, we really have no way of knowing if those statements have something to do with the step daughter's behavior or if the step daughters behavior elicits those kinds of statements. I'm not going to judge anything at this point because I don't have all the facts. We may not have them all after the show either. Sadly, it is only a 1 hour program and that barely seems enough time for anyone to figure it all out.   

What I will say is this.... NPD is a serious and pervasive disorder that leaves many victims in it's wake. Narcissists come from all walks of life. All races, sexes, socio-economic backgrounds, etc... It is insidious in the fact that N's are able to fool even the best psychiatrists. Victims often times are left homeless, penniless, emotionally wrecked, and mentally fractured. Yet, the N goes about their life without a care for the damage they cause. They are incapable of empathy and are pathological liars by nature. They remain clam and collected while the victims lay crushed beneath the weight of the insanity. It's almost incomprehensible if you haven't lived it or been witness to it. I'm happy to see any show air that brings this disorder out into the open. This is my main reason for being here.   

Take care and God bless.  

When a parent says "I did nothing"  - that is a HUGE RED FLAG! --- GOOD parents are constantly looking at their behavior and how it affects their children - ready to blame themselves.  NO parent does everything perfect - This father is trying so hard to protect himself that he doesn't care one bit about his daughter and this Step-Mother just feeds his ego - together they are destroying this young girl...

I can name three things he showed bad judgment with already -- letting his new wife remove her Mother's things - no compassion for his daughter's pain!  Dropping her off in Mexico??? THIS is good parenting???  Allowing the new wife to put labels on his daughter -- damaging labels and talk about his daughter being better off dead --- EVEN if you think such a thing - MOST people have the sense NOT to say it!  How is she supposed to get over that? This guy is CLUELESS!!! 

I feel so bad for her - she needs to get away from those two - children meet the expectations that parents set for them -

Shannon, If you are reading this - you have a right to be damn angry - get out - what you are doing is NORMAL for someone in your situation - many kids do the same thing -- it is simply a cry for help!  Get some help dear - you are a good person!  The fact that you had to call Dr. Phil is just you trying to get validation for your very JUSTIFIED anger! 

Dr. Phil I wish you would have RIPPED that Dad for what he has done to his daughter - the one who is egotistical is the Father - he only cares about his own happiness – his own “reputation” as a father -  it is clear to me.  Who would allow someone (Stepmother) to speak to their own child that way unless they cared more about what makes them happy?