My husband is a victim of PAS also. His children are 17 and 19, soon to be 18 and 20. Their mother is a sociopath, but the children absolutely adore her. These boys mother attends all school functions with them, including the prom and the oldest senior cruise. I think they are substitute romantic figures for her. I don't think she is having sex with them or anything perverted like that, but she often comments how people think she is married to the oldest one since he looks much older than his age. They go with her to the beauty salon every week for her to have her nails done, she combs their hair every day, if one has a doctor's appt. they all go. The youngest missed 26 days of school last year, and was tardy 32 times. He is going to a private school, so they can overlook these things. He is very smart and his grades were still good.
The mother hates the dad and from the time they were young have been told how horrible their dad is. He is a good man and does anything he can for his children. They can tell 'stories' about their dad that happened when they were 2 and 4. Whatever their mother tells them, they believe it. They don't observe his birthday or father's day. They have no respect for their dad and will not acknowledge his side of the family and certainly not me. They will not go on any vacations with him unless their mother can go too. Needless to say, they don't spend much time with him. The mom always has plans. Forget the court system. The boys are extremely happy and are more than willing to tell a judge just that. They have no friends except each other. They come around Christmas for the gifts. The mother doesn't work and my husband pays everything for her, they live very well. We know this isn't good for children. Our hands are tied. If my husband tries to discipline or say anything, they won't talk to him for a month. They punish him.
What I would like to know is what happens to these children when they do eventually grow up? Are there any children who realize what happened to them? These children are so oblivious to the world around them, I'm not sure they will ever understand what happened.
