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April 20, 2006, 2:29 am PDT
04/20 "I Love Myself!"
Quote From: vabtrflyI haven't seen the show in it's entirety as of yet. Are you talking about the statement, "If she died tomorrow, I wouldn't shed a tear"? That does sound extremely cold, doesn't it? That said, we really have no way of knowing if those statements have something to do with the step daughter's behavior or if the step daughters behavior elicits those kinds of statements. I'm not going to judge anything at this point because I don't have all the facts. We may not have them all after the show either. Sadly, it is only a 1 hour program and that barely seems enough time for anyone to figure it all out.
What I will say is this.... NPD is a serious and pervasive disorder that leaves many victims in it's wake. Narcissists come from all walks of life. All races, sexes, socio-economic backgrounds, etc... It is insidious in the fact that N's are able to fool even the best psychiatrists. Victims often times are left homeless, penniless, emotionally wrecked, and mentally fractured. Yet, the N goes about their life without a care for the damage they cause. They are incapable of empathy and are pathological liars by nature. They remain clam and collected while the victims lay crushed beneath the weight of the insanity. It's almost incomprehensible if you haven't lived it or been witness to it. I'm happy to see any show air that brings this disorder out into the open. This is my main reason for being here.
Take care and God bless. I'm sorry but after watching the show today, i'm not so sure that it isn't the step mother who is the manipulative one. I used to be just like the girl when I was a teen, I always yelled at everyone and as I got older I figured out why I was constantly yelling and raising my voice. When I would talk, it seemed like nobody was listening, but if I yelled people heard what I had to say. I didn't do this to get attention for no reason, but because everyone disregaurded me and my opinion as if it were a joke. Nobody in my family respected me, I was exactly like the young woman on the show. I would do and say things to people and mean it in a nice way and somebody would always spin it to be negative. I am not narcissistic in the least. I onced told one of my older sisters quietly that I think she should change her shirt because it had blood stains on it(i was young and I didn't know about getting your period) and my oldest sister asked me what I had said to my other sister to make her go change and I told her. My oldest sister then proceeded to slap me in my face and yell at me for "embarassing" my other sister and uninvited me to the family outing. I am not trying to get any type of sympathy because I have gotten over my family and their constant teasing and abuse, but I just wanted to let people know that I don't think it is completely the girls fault. She should learn to control her anger albeit, but the blame should not rest solely on her. Just because you're an adult doesn't mean that you can demand respect of children especially if you're a step parent. You must earn respect of people not immediately expect it, people are people no matter what age. Doesn't everyone deserve respect? The step mother came in and changed this young womans life and nobody even asked her for her opinion, she wasn't even in the wedding party. I would say that after hearing that, I wouldn't have expected any different from this family.
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