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I am from Canada and I agree that like everything there is always good and bad. The innocent getting hurt that goes both for the parents and the children. I believe that there are absolutely children who need and should be with foster families because of the environment at home. I also know first hand that here in Canada as well CFS ( Child and Family Services) can and do come into ones yard and with no investigation or evidance they come and take children from their homes and as a parent there is absolutely nothing you can do to stop it.  

If there were more foster Mom' s like this lady here then when parents like myself are wronged and our children are taken at least we would know that our children were as safe there as they were at home. Unfortunately it is sad to say that in both our Countries this is not the case. Personally I feel that the children who were blessed enough to have met this lady are a few of the lucky and blessed to survive the "system".   

My older children have accused my partner/boyfriend and father to my youngest 2 children of some extremly horrible abuse charges which has resulted in the older 2 being removed from my home. This is not the first time I have had to get lawyers and prove that I am innocent. Our family has been torn apart and there is no one to help us either. It breaks my heart that my children are only 10 mins away and I can't even see them but once a week. I am apparently only a good enough mom to care for my little ones which to me is odd and shows lack of investigation.  

My children are in a safe home yes but are they better off? No they are not. The parents are ok but they are not perfect and they do the same things I did only I took it further and spanked them when they were totally out of control. I don't feel my children are loved in this home and that breaks my heart as I know in my heart that we did nothing wrong, at least nothing that deserves having my children in the "System".  

Since in care my 13 yr old girl had been "cutting" herself and no one noticed. I seen her first time for 10  mins and I knew something was up and found the cuts and names ingraved in her arm. Then I was told it was just a "fad" and they would have a "talk" with her. It actually took till my daughter recently cut herself so bad it required her to go to hospital. The foster mother wouldn't let my girl even call me and no worker felt it was important to notify me till almost 2 pm the next day.  

so yes there is good and bad, I only pray that God finds more mom's like you. Then it wouldn't hurst as much and be as painful the child being in "care". It will never be easy for any parent to another try to raise there own and be worse at it, unfortunately it can and does happen. God bless your heart for being so genuinly loving to those who need it.  

And to any one else wrongly done or kids are wrongly being done by from a system that claims to care: well all I can say is pray and NEVER give up on your children. Be there no matter what and love them UNCONDITIONALLY!!! Your day will come in court and you will then have the chance to tell your story. I believe that my story will someday be heard, untill then I will treasure my weekly visits with the children and reasure them that I love them and together we can get through anything.   

God bless you friend and the world definately could use so many more like yourself.  

Thank You......  

I have been a foster parent for many years. I too have seen many children returned to the original environment that they were removed from.  Yes, there are some foster homes that are not great but I never understood how that happens. Every three months we are visited by licensing and every month the casemanager comes by and also the Guardian ad lidem. We have to go through training, strong background checks, home studies, more training every year and they even check our finances. Yes, you have to have a decent income to take in foster children. That way they know that you are not doing it for the money. I spend every cent of board money and plenty of my own on the children. They come here with nothing and leave with new clothes, shoes, toys even bikes. Boxes full of items. We hug and kiss them everyday. We grow to love each other. It is always hard to say good bye. But when a parent does their case plan, I am happy to see them reunited as a healthy family.