Quote From: lievenYou're exactly right. Its sexist to claim that women should only get choices and men only get consequences. That view, in fact, infantalises women, so its really the ultimate not just in
misandry, but in misogyny, too.
Granted, men and women cannot be fuly equal in this area, that is, if a man wants a child, he does need to procure a willing woman who wnats to do that with him. That should be the standard for both men and for women, even though women can, biologically speaking, go it alone, after they
get some sperm. But, as with many other htings, that we can do a thing, does not mean that we should do it. The data on the harms to children of being made deliberately fatherless is massive,
and unrefutable. If some man hating women say " we don't need men ", then I say back, " fine,
do so without our sperm and money, too. Thats... consistant ".
Maybe we should remain "consistent", and remember that a child, is not a material object to "haggle with".
If you decide to have sex with a partner...everything is at risk. Everything goes out the window. You are at risk emotionally, spiritually, physically. It is very naive and lazy to say that you "trust" that the other person is taking birth control, or can't have kids. It is the same idea where the person says, "Oh, no, I don't have aids..." and wouldn't you know, the partner finds out after having unprotected sex that they themself now have aids. Who is at fault there?
When you CHOOSE to have sex with another human being, if something comes of that, good or bad, you no longer have choices. You have responsibility. And you must fulfill your responsibility, not just sweep it under the carpet. Men AND women. Women who abort are just as guilty...because a child is not a choice. A child is a human being. Children deserve to be created in love, and have love expressed to them.
Just because "you are not ready for a child", well, then you certainly weren't ready for sex either. Men and women need to grow up and stop acting like 5 year olds because they didn't get their way.
Be better than that. Set an example. When you set a good example, others will follow. That's consistent
