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April 20, 2006, 4:47 pm PDT

04/21 Baby Wars

Quote From: julie1418

I must be doing something wrong....I have two children and between the 9months for each pregnancy plus months and months of breastfeeding, the fact that I have become a living jungle gym for my toddlers, changing endless diapers, wiping noses, lifting heavy strollers, lifting heavy children...........well, it seems my physical burden has surpasses the nine month mark!!!! 

  

The problem with this issue is that there is a vast difference between what we can agree on morally and what we can enforce legally. In the end, tough decisions are made to protect the children who had no say in either biological parent's immorality or irresponsibility. 

I agree...... I have two kids and am currently pregnant with my third.  The list of things mothers physically do each day is endless not to mention the sleep deprivation - I get 4 - 4 1/2 hrs sleep a night whilst my husband is curled up bisfullly unaware of what goes on in the wee hours.   

  

At the end of the day it comes down to responsability.  Children dont ask to be born into a legal battle.  If you dont want a child - dont have unprotected sex. 

  

 

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April 20, 2006, 4:51 pm PDT

04/21 Baby Wars

Quote From: julie1418

I must be doing something wrong....I have two children and between the 9months for each pregnancy plus months and months of breastfeeding, the fact that I have become a living jungle gym for my toddlers, changing endless diapers, wiping noses, lifting heavy strollers, lifting heavy children...........well, it seems my physical burden has surpasses the nine month mark!!!! 

  

The problem with this issue is that there is a vast difference between what we can agree on morally and what we can enforce legally. In the end, tough decisions are made to protect the children who had no say in either biological parent's immorality or irresponsibility. 

 The physical burden of raising children (i.e., after birth) should be shared equally between fathers and mothers.  If there is inequality there and you are doing vastly more than 50% of the daily tasks associated with raising your kids, then yes, you are doing something wrong and need to bring the kids to their Dad. 

If he's out working all day to bring home money for food, rent, and diapers, then I might suggest your kids' father's burden would be about equal to that of stay at home mom, except that the poor father doesn't get to bond with his children all day.  That's called the "daddy tax."

Just because a father changes fewer diapers or wipes fewer noses because he's busting his butt outside the home to provide for the kids doesn't mean his burden is any less than stay-at-home mom.

Equal reproductive rights for men NOW!  Men are not merely walking wallets!!
 
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April 21, 2006, 2:27 pm PDT

04/21 Baby Wars

Quote From: julie1418

I must be doing something wrong....I have two children and between the 9months for each pregnancy plus months and months of breastfeeding, the fact that I have become a living jungle gym for my toddlers, changing endless diapers, wiping noses, lifting heavy strollers, lifting heavy children...........well, it seems my physical burden has surpasses the nine month mark!!!! 

  

The problem with this issue is that there is a vast difference between what we can agree on morally and what we can enforce legally. In the end, tough decisions are made to protect the children who had no say in either biological parent's immorality or irresponsibility. 

i dont get where you think after the 9mo  of carring a baby is all there is for raising a child your an idoit you go through the 9mo that a man gets off the hook of the morning sickness he gets off the labor pains then the mother still has the 18mo you are complaing about to raise and provide foe that child i have a grandaughter raising 2 kids she works 40hr a week morethanlikley making less than you just begause she is a woman then she comes home cleans house feeds the kids helps with home work dose the laundry gets there baths dose what shopping she has to do takes care of the runny noses and more and all she ask for is a little finacal sport where as you all you have to do is go to work go out that night and see what girl you can find to cant say have sex it is plain for you men ---- if you get my drift  if a woman choice is not to abort that baby good for her if you dont wont kids go get it cut or dont have sex
 
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April 21, 2006, 3:24 pm PDT

04/21 Baby Wars

Quote From: julie1418

I must be doing something wrong....I have two children and between the 9months for each pregnancy plus months and months of breastfeeding, the fact that I have become a living jungle gym for my toddlers, changing endless diapers, wiping noses, lifting heavy strollers, lifting heavy children...........well, it seems my physical burden has surpasses the nine month mark!!!! 

  

The problem with this issue is that there is a vast difference between what we can agree on morally and what we can enforce legally. In the end, tough decisions are made to protect the children who had no say in either biological parent's immorality or irresponsibility. 

Wow, "jayriddle" how many children have comeforth out of your inner lining? My husband even says going to work is luxuray compared to my day with 3 kids at home. Speak from intelligence and not ignorance.
 


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