Quote From: jai149Thankyou, I try to be. My kids are my life. there isn't anything I would do for them.
My husband and I have been married for almost 6 years but have lived together for 10. I have suggested counseling but he has refused. his attitude is unbelivable, I cant belive that we have been given a third fantastic gift and he doesnt want him/her. There are so many couples out there that would love to be in our situation. We really are lucky. Finacially we do ok, were not swimming in cash but we get by. We are paying off our own house, own our car and are not in a great deal of debt. He doesnt go without anything he wants, the kids have everything they need and more. I just dont get him. I just dont feel that I can stay, for my sake and the kids.
I am no advocate of breaking up families, but your husband seems to be emotionally breaking up your family. I think you need to insist on counseling, and if he won't go, you need to leave. It would be tragic to raise a child in a home where he/she felt unloved and unwanted by a parent. I also think you should get some counseling for yourself, even if he won't go.
If you leave him, make the separation legal. This sounds awfully cold, but people do crazy things when they are backed into a corner. You wouldn't want to deal with the aftermath if he started hiding money or running up credit cards. If you are not legally separated, his debts are yours.
