Replies to 'Troubled Teens'

I was always so sure what to do with my kid....till now.  Hi there!  My name is Sherry, i have a daughter 16 (17 in Jan).  She doesn't have O D D , was cutting, drinking, drug, over the counter drugs, shoplifting, stole from me, setting fires, sexually active, lies, to the most recent running away (2nd time) and making false allegations to CPS saying we were neglecting her.  She dropped out of school and knows if push comes to shove I can't make her do something she doesn't want to.  I started to take away some of the less obvious priveleges.  Like make up and curling iron, taking a shower (provided her with large bowl/tub of water to wash off in...luke warm water of course) Her and I go head to head all the time now.  She says I am doing it to control her and I say no...it's called a consequence.  She has to see the juvenile judge in a few weeks.  Yesterday she dropped out of school so I told her go back or get a job. She thinks she knows it all and this time she will fall flat on her face cause I am through with all the drama and disrespect.  When she goes in front of the judge and she has no job, not in school, hanging with deliquent friends and she fails the drug test.......mommy refuses to bail her out at all.  Maybe then she will see that she is not invinsible!!!! If you guys have come up with an effective plan....please clue me in.  I too am getting fed up with the system and am tired from repeatedly hitting the brick wall.  Sherry