Replies to '07/06 Baby Wars'

  I believe there is more to having sex then just "The Rules".  You can't define it in one sentence.  There are more then one persons feelings to consider, but even if a man pays child support is it going to make the child grow up happy and healthy and secure?  Its always about the money.  All the money in the world can't make a child grow up happy, healthy, secure and religious...ect.

I just don't get it.  Why do we as women think that if he plays he must pay...one way or another.  Turn this whole situation around and put yourself in a situation where this woman's decision effects the financial well being of a planned family.  Ok, the baby comes first, from a one night stand, initiated by a desperate woman, either looking for companionship in a child, a forced relationship with a man, or a guaranteed monthly income, for the next 18 years.  All the while claiming she needs nothing from him, my baby needs nothing from you. Yet when that baby comes, your at child advocate the next day filing the papers...Yes I should have a choice or a say in the matter, but the law does not allow me too.  It only allows me to pay you before I get my check, I feel at a certain age, a woman or man should know whether they want a child, together or apart.  I just don't think it is fair to hold a man, and his planned family hostage for financial means.  Everytime she feels she needs a raise in child support she takes him back to court.  If you feel you need an increase in pay, get a better job.  Don't sit around waiting on my increases in pay to determine your new standard of living.  Its just not fair.  I am a father to my child, and I should be because I pay dearly monthly.  Never been behind and don't plan on it.  I spend time with my child and my child spends time with me and her sisters.  If this is not about money, then your old ass could take care of this baby financially without my financial  support.  Your child support check is larger that one of my take home paychecks, and when I am summoned to the court to stand accussed of not paying enough child support, don't ask for my taxes, because they also include my wife's income, and if we can't know how much money your actually contributing, why should my wifes income come into play when determining amounts.  You leeches out there get jobs, jobs that can help you take care of that child that you want so much.  Disregarding all past abortions.  So when you get those checks in the mail, you might actually be able to save some for the child, you know college, higher learner oppurtunities, because we will not be able to kick in any additional,we are broke. So for those of you who do not believe this is about money, don't be confused its about money a lot of the times.  You women just remember, if you rob him and continue to take him back to court when he is paying you a fair amount, you can ultimately damage his relationship with his child.  Just get off your bum, go to school, do something that will make you marketable.  Save some of that child support for the child's future.  And remember every man you lay with is a potential father of your baby.  Or an additional check in the mail, tell the truth you know you are a moocher.