Replies to '08/19 Ask Dr. Phil About Sex'

Loving my husband I couldn't imagine telling him that I'm not sexually attracted to him & that's why I want to swing & sleep with others.  While we of course want to be compatible in other areas besides sex I find it cruel of her to have married this man & then basically said she doesn't find him desireable.   

When we really love someone they don't even have to be good looking for us to find them desireable or to be attracted to them.  The expression "Love is blind" is the absolute truth & if we love someone we're blind to anything but the idea we want & desire them & that's emotinally & physically.   

As others have pointed out this couples child was right up stairs when this couple was having these sex parties & could have walked in at any time.  Dr. Phil was there trying to explain how to try to put pleasing your spouse before you own pleasure & because you love them take your pleasure from that.  I don't think that woman was capable of that because I think she is of a me me me mind set.  She doesn't think about her husband & his feelings & what he does or doesn't want & she doesn't even consider her daughter & her well being.  It's all me me me for her & what SHE finds attractive & what she WANTS.  How does someone like that come to understand finding satisfaction with someone else's pleasure?