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July 22, 2006, 1:37 pm PDT

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I think what they do for foster kids is definately amazing, and I would never want to take away from that. I'll also admit I'm Canadian and don't know a whole lot about the American system. What I do know is that in Canada there's a lot of forgotten kids. In my family there was 7 people and my parents worked very hard to support us as much as possible but still could not really afford too. However, because they worked we got no help from government or aid services or anything else. Also, I love my family, and we always loved eachother but I was abused by someone other than my parents for a verrry long time, then I couldn't leave so I saw that person everyday of my life. Needless to say, I couldnt take it so I quit school and moved out at 16. Then I supported myself and had to work full time. And again, where I had never been in foster care or unemployed and was underage I had NO help available, my parents would have but couldn't afford too. In the long run I am now doing my grade 12 through correspondece while working to support myself and things are getting back on track. However, the point of this post is to say there are a lot of kids who's lifes probably seem great, and families reallly are amazing people but things happen... physically, emotionally or financially that make life extremely hard and we fall through the cracks, with no help to turn to anywhere because we don't fit into any of the categories, and I would hope a children's foundation would focus on those kids, who have no help at all from the system. Because, as much as the system us brutal it is something, I wish I could've had a system help me live in a place so I could finish school, because now I'm over 20 and still don't have it.  

All I really wanted more than anything else is to make people remember kids that might be like I was, and help them too, they're harder to find because they tend to hide it but there are A LOT of them, and they desperately need our help. 

I am so sorry for all that you have been through. I too was abused by someone when I was a child. You have a great family and foster care is not about "bad" families. That's why it's called the Dept of children and families. If you had gone into foster care, you would have had a "hopefully" decent place to live with people helping with your homework and feeding you and supporting you in every way. Your parents could have been a part of it all. I still see many of the parents of our one time foster children. We try to stay in touch.  

Don't give up on your education. You sound very smart and positive. Find the resources in your state. Be strong and you can be anything you want to be. If you have a religious belief, get involved in a church. They have many resources too. I wish you all the best.  

 


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